Let’s face it — changing behavior is difficult. If it were easy, we wouldn’t find ourselves coming up with the same New Year’s resolutions year after year, we would probably all be a lot more enlightened by now, and us self-help folks would be out of business. But it’s important to recognize that this difficulty to change behavior is a universal struggle, not a personal failing. Many of us are taught to believe that if we just work hard enough, push ourselves enough, and drum up enough willpower and self-discipline, we should be able to change (and what’s wrong with us anyway when we can’t!). But what we often aren’t taught is that willpower and self-control have some surprising ingredients that we may not be aware of.